I desire to be that woman

As I was going through all my saved bible studies this morning, I came across this wonderful article written by Debie Pearl from No Greater Joy Ministries. I remember reading it about two years ago and being greatly encouraged by her words and wanting to became that woman from Proverbs chapter 14 verse 1 that builds her house.

"Every wise woman buildeth her house: but the foolish plucketh it down with her hands." (Proverbs 14:1)

A Wise Woman builds her house

Article by Debi Pearl, May 2001

A wise woman doesn’t take anything for granted. She is thankful to be loved and seeks to make herself more lovely.

A wise woman doesn’t allow herself to be a liability but strives to be an asset to the marriage bond. She looks for ways to make, save, and use money wisely. Her husband knows he is a richer man because she is his wife.

A wise woman seeks to be a part of her husband’s life. His interest becomes her interest. She looks for ways to help him in every endeavor in which he is involved. When he needs a helping hand, it is her hand that is there first.

A wise woman knows that his peace of mind (and sometimes, wise understanding) is something she can give or take away by her observations and conversation concerning circumstances or people. She limits her conversation to the positive.

A wise woman sets a joyful mood in the household. She uses laughter, music and happy times to stir the children to a positive, joyful frame of mind. She knows this light-heartedness helps take stress off her husband.

A wise woman gauges her husband’s needs. She seeks to fulfill his desires before even he is aware of them. She never leaves him daydreaming outside the home. She supplies his every desire.

A wise woman understands that her husband’s need to be honored is not based on his performance but on his position. She learns quickly to defer with enthusiasm to his ideas or plans. She looks for ways to reverence him. She knows this is God’s will for her life.

A wise woman is not pitiful, puny, or whinny. She seeks to be confident, capable and thankful.

A wise woman does not dream of what “could have been.” She sees clearly that she is not God’s gift to men; thus she is blessed in her present circumstances. She learns to be content.

A wise woman never expects anyone to serve her; therefore she is never disappointed. She is ready to help—a giver. By her example her children learn to serve cheerfully and energetically.

A wise woman doesn’t attempt to instruct her husband through feigned questions. Her questions are sincere inquiries concerning his will.

A wise woman is always learning. She is open to change. She is ready to hear. She wants to know. She doesn’t cloud her mind with the foolish folly of entertainment. She uses her time wisely.

After reading the article again, I realized that I have a lot of growing to do, but thank be to God that he provides His written word; the bible. In Titus chapter 2 verse 5, Paul exhorts women to be " discreet, chaste, keepers at home, good, obedient to own husbands so that the word of God be not blasphemed." I need to apply all of the above in my life daily and be a builder of my home for God’s glory.